Make a Decision and Stick to It!
Well I’m moving. I’m packing my stuff and moving on! I am sad to be leaving what I have considered to be my home for six years and my partner of six years. I have known in my heart for the past two years that the two of us were not meant to be together, but I kept ignoring that nagging thought! Make a decision and stick to it! Now that I made the decision–make the move work! Get rid of what no longer works (I keep telling myself), however, I feel like my feet are stuck in cement, my brain is blurred and is filled with memories attached to things. As I am packing I am weeding through my stuff and getting rid of the extra baggage! If I have not worn a pair of shoes in ten years, they are not coming with me, I will throw them or give them away. And the same goes for clothes and books. The pots and pans I am taking will be just the bare necessities, same with dishes and silverware. At this stage in my life I have accepted what I need and what I do not need–I have accepted what works in my lifestyle and what does not work. I now follow the eighty/twenty rule. Eighty-percent of my stuff is just clutter– I only use twenty-percent of it. Lets face-it, unless we put things to use and maintain them there really is no point to having them.</span>
I have found that people with ADD/ADHD have difficulty making decisions. It can be as small as what to eat for breakfast and as life changing as should I stay in this relationship? Unfortunately not deciding does not solve the dilemma all it does it postpone it for a later time. And usually the longer postponed, the more cleanup required.</span>
A lot of struggles have come from not making decisions. I have wanted it all! And the truth is, we cannot have it all! We can not eat cake, meat, and starch and be skinny! Just as we can not be night people and early risers without it catching up to us. We cannot be true to who we are and be with a person that does not love us for who we are. We cannot be impulsive spenders and stick to a budget.
Living a balanced life, feeling centered and at peace is important to me; it is no longer things. Here is a tool that you may find helpful!
Create an action wheel: Make a circle on a 9.5 x 11 sheet a paper. Within the circle create a wedge for what you would consider important aspects that create a balance in your life such as: career, finances, recreation, personal growth, health, relationships. On a scale from one to ten, rate each category. The center of the wheel is zero and towards the outer edge is a ten. For instance on a scale from one to ten how would you rate your financial status? This will demonstrate whether your life is balanced or represents a crooked wheel.